“Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.”
(I Corinthians 13:6)
I’ve never been hooked up to a lie detector. Have you? How you would do, if you were? Here are a few of the most common lies people tell today. Have you ever told any of these?
– The puppy won’t be any trouble, mom. I promise I’ll take care of it myself.
– The check is in the mail.
– You made it yourself? I never would have guessed.
– Thanks for the invitation. I’m sorry I can’t make it tonight.
– You don’t look a day over 40.
– That dress looks great on you.
– It’s delicious, but I can’t eat another bite.
Why is it so hard to just tell the truth? We fear the consequences. We are afraid of conflict. We don’t want to hurt people’s feelings or be hurt ourselves. So, we tell white lies. We skirt the truth. We avoid deep conversations
Unfortunately, truth-avoidance leads only to superficial relationships in life. Superficial relationships are built on shallow communication. Everything is kept on a surface level. You avoid conflict at all costs. You never resolve misunderstandings. You avoid revealing your real opinions and feelings. As a result, the relationship never goes deep; it never gets personal and intimate.
On the other hand, intimate relationships are sourced in truthfulness and honesty. They require openness, transparency, and vulnerability. They work through conflict together. They are built on unconditional love, acceptance, and support.
How is your marriage? How are your family relationships? How are your friendships? Are you settling for superficial relationships? Or are you pursuing healthy relationships through openness and truthfulness?
Dear Heavenly Father,
I confess that truth is not always easy.
Give me the courage to be open & vulnerable.
May my life be marked by honesty & truthfulness.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.